The Vessel

Through wonderful conversations with my fellow WP peeps about my “Birthday Musings”, I have come to understand a greater reality about death, love, loss, and new beginnings. In, “Birthday Musings”, I wrote that when we loose a loved one, a void, or hole is left within us that scars the soul and makes it quite difficult to cope. However, I have amended such thoughts after much contemplation to see that the people we encounter in life, especially those who are truly beloved, do not leave us empty at their departure. No, instead, from the very first person who shares their heart with us, be it a parent, family member, friend or a soul mate, their love begins the construction within our beings of a vessel. This vessel is precious indeed, for it is constructed of every kind act, word, or feeling our loved ones have shared with us. These beautiful contributions of love are interwoven forming a strong, impermeable vessel to hold, nurture, and prosper all future love. This vessel is constructed by the most steadfast and unbreakable bonds of love. Christ’s Sacrificial love allows us to retain the lessons of kindness, generosity, forgiveness, compassion, wisdom, and unending unconditional love. The vessel is a living breathing entity that welcomes the love of another to fill it up when one of its carpenters have left the reality we live in on a daily basis. There is no greater treasure that we can own and it was gifted to us, constructed by others but demanding ownership from us.
The very strongest threads are woven when someone enters or leaves our lives. Think of the feeling you get when holding a brand new baby whether it is your own or that of a loved one. Instantly, a new thread of love is woven into the vessel as we meet the next contributor to this life affirming vessel. So too, when a loved one passes beyond our reach, all of the memories, feelings of love and appreciation become tangible creating a multi-layered thread that becomes essential for all others to be woven from, around, in, and through. It truly is a miraculous blessing to have so many contribute to this vessel over our lifetimes. The ones we love and who love us are with us throughout all of eternity because they are literally part of who we are and who we will become; hence, we do not say good-bye to anyone only, “see you later.” They have begun the next leg of their journey and we must celebrate their victory and be happy for them as they enjoy paradise. We take and use everything they have taught and given us to become better human beings and make certain that our actions change the world in a positive direction. We may not be able to change the entire world but we owe it to all those who loved us, who created this precious vessel, to use what they gave so freely and change our little corner of the world.
Each person we encounter is not a mistaken fluke of chance. Even those who choose to do harm instead of good are meant to teach us something, If we can carry the lesson from the depths of the pain. However, those rare and special people who freely choose to love us are the greatest gifts we can ever receive. When love is true and pure and not corrupted by selfish desires then it is the most powerful thing in our arsenal against hate, ignorance, and greed.
On this day of Thanksgiving, I am grateful for each friend and family member who has contributed to the making of the vessel that holds and empowers the love within me. My fellow writers on have opened an entirely new store of resources to fill my vessel to overflowing through their kindness and friendship! I am amazed, awed, and thrilled with the gifts God has given me. Circumstances of life whether it be health, finances, or romance can try to convince us that love is a farce and that friendships are only forged for greed but that is not true. Do these things exist? Certainly they do but you make the choice to use or be used by another. True, some horrible things happen through no fault of our own and some are born with severe challenges that would crush the most stalwart man’s heart and good cheer, yet there is still choice. What do we do in the aftermath of tragedy or with the burden of health problem to which some are born into? What choices do we make after the tears have been spent? Do we become bitter or do we become better? Do we allow others to weave their threads into this glorious vessel or do we allow it grow cold and dark forbidding further access to all and to ourselves?
Allow the love that built you into the person you are today or the person you are striving to become to burn brightly with the love and passion the carpenter’s intended for you. Allow it to pulsate with the power of its contributors! Above all else, make certain Christ is the foreman throughout the construction, for his sacrificial love is the one we must model all others after. Thank you all for helping me recognize the existence of this treasure I have carried all along and for contributing to it all the time. It is never empty, there is no void and the pain we feel at the loss of a loved one is just the thick thread of their life’s love being woven into our vessel. Welcome the pain, for it means they have become part of you forevermore.

24 thoughts on “The Vessel

  1. Dearest Tina – I am unable to write or comment, I had tears while I was crying. Every word or sentence was touched me. I let my mother who is a doctor to read over your presentation, she was speechless. May God Bless you and let every step shine for you. You are in my prayers.

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  2. Your thoughtful and thought-provoking post demonstrates a profound understanding of your subject, and while you may have suffered much along your path, you have also, more importantly, turned it all into a very important life lesson for all of us. We are often challenged by the circumstances of our lives, and whether they are of our own making or thrust upon us, we must find a way to move forward if we are to contribute in a positive way to the future.

    The vessel you speak of is the perfect metaphor for the solution to whatever challenges come to us in life. The love and support and kindness of our loved ones, as well as our own efforts to be compassionate toward and forgiving of others, construct the vessel and make it durable and strong. The negative people and experiences we encounter may alter the shape of the vessel in some ways, but in the long run, we are the architects of our vessel, and by our responses to the peaks and valleys, we can re-shape our vessel if we are determined and recognize our part in helping to shape the vessels of those we love also.

    I am thankful to share this place with you, and all those who visit here get a little shine on their vessel with every post you write.

    Warm regards….John H.

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  3. Again John, you honor with your words. Thank you. Twenty years ago I was known by my favorite mantra, “I hate people”. People meant pain to me so I pushed them away while at the same time having an inner drive to help those who needed it. It was a strange dichotomy of feelings. Much has transpired in those twenty odd years and I cannot say that it was good, not for my lack of trying to achieve the opposite. Nevertheless, I sit here today and I am blessed to be able to look back upon the path I have trod and see the very bright spots along the way. To be certain, they were few indeed. However, their rarity makes them shine that much brighter. I prayed in earnest once asking God to show me examples of good people, good souls who did not want to do me harm, who truly had good hearts. You know what? He has never stopped since I prayed that prayer. Men, especially were a significant problem for me due to rather selfish uncle during my childhood. Yet, today, I have lost count of all the good men and women God has opened my eyes too. I did not think so many wonderful people existed in what can be a very dark world. I am so glad and honored to have you as yet another shining example of someone good that eagerly and willingly contributes to bettering humankind through thought and deed. I am equally grateful that you chose to become part of my journey. Blessings upon you and all you hold dear!


  4. “Allow the love that built you into the person you are today or the person you are striving to become to burn brightly with the love and passion the carpenter’s intended for you.”
    I agree and enjoyed your words and thoughts. I believe the same. There is no chance meetings. Things do fall into proper place.

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